He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity. Proverbs 21:23 NIV
Some people verbally abuse their children, spouses or subordinates. Words can hurt as much as a punch or a gunshot because it goes straight to the heart. Some children are bullied inside of their own house by their parents or siblings. Some Husbands or wives are also victim of abuse by their spouses
If you say to your spouse: “You are a loser” or to your son: “you are the devil himself”, the devil will just say “AMEN”. Usually the devil works with our own words even if we didn’t mean it. Later on we can see that person failing in all his ways or we can see that child becoming a trouble maker.
In a moment of anger a person may speak curses upon their family and that is the reason we shall guard our mouth even if the other part is provoking and hurting us.
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love to talk will have to eat their own words. Proverbs 18:21 GWT
With our words we can lift or put someone down. Even If we have the reason to speak some “TRUTHS” to another person we have to pray first and ask the Lord to give us wisdom and right words in order to override the work of the devil through our mouths
But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’ (Worthless) is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell. Matthew 5 :22 NIV
Many parents call their children all kind of bad names, many husbands or wives call their spouses all kind of horrible names! If calling somebody, ‘you fool’ will be in danger of the fire of hell, how much more suffering and pain waits for those who speak worse words!
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26 NIV
If we are angry it is better not to talk! It is better to vent our anger (in a good way) to our Lord by praying earnestly and by seeking His guidance.
Do not let any unwholesome (evil) talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29 NIV
We have to be watchful even with jokes that we may do to our kids and spouses, if it is not to lift them up, it is better not to joke. Our words should be helpful and never to bully our loved ones
We have to break the circle of pain. Even if we grew up listening bad words, words of discouragement, curses, words of humiliations and all kind of verbal abuse; we should not bring it forward to our children, spouses or subordinates. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation: the old has gone, the new has come! 2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV
In Christ we are a new creation and instead of curses we must speak blessings to our family!
God bless you
