Every family may have problems and the simple reason for such conflicts are that different personalities are sharing the same house.
Each one of us including each one of our family member, has a unique way of thinking and they may like something that we may dislike it.
We all have differences and if we are not able to understand that, we will find ourselves creating a war at home. We are not like our spouses and although we “make” our children, they’re definitely not like ourselves.
Some people just miss the point here; they want to determine how their spouse and children MUST be. They act as if their family members are a mere robot; obeying his/hers commands. Obviously it will create turmoil and a family war will began.
It doesn’t mean that we have to remove the correction and order from our house and children; in fact, we have to teach our kids on the right way and never neglected them. Fortunate, the Bible give us lots of instructions towards family matters and I will share some verses here:
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
Proverb 29:17 Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul.
Some parents think that they are doing well in removing the correction out from their kids; unfortunately they are doing more harm than good. We have to be an example, we have to teach them well, correct them when it is necessary and respect them because they have their own personality.
Respect is an important key in solving family conflict, when husbands and wives lose it; the relationship becomes almost unbearable between them. We should respect and understand each ones individuality and personality.
The Bible clearly shows the duty that each family member should have in order to have a health family:
Ephesians 5:22 says: Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:25 says: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up to her
Ephesians 6:1-3 says: Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right."Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise: "That it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth."
Ephesians 6:4 says: And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
Proverbs 14:1says: The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
We can see that every family member has a duty, if we fulfill our duties and follow these instructions, we will be able to have a happy family.
I know that it is not easy to bring peace to a family that has been deteriorated by constant war. In a war people get hurt and wounded. God can heal your wounds and He can restore the love, peace and order in your family, but it is necessary prayers, faith and forgiveness.
You can experience a transformation in your family by repeating this prayer wholeheartedly and in faith:
Dear Lord, restore the love and the peace in our family
Give me wisdom to teach our children in the way they should go
Give me love and patience in order to build up our family
Restore our marriage and teach me to forgive the past
Heal our wounds and replace all the tears for joy
Dear Lord, give me insight to see my own mistakes
And to do not judge others
Lord, I need you. I cannot do it alone, I need you my Lord.
I place my family into your Holy hands
I believe that you have the power to transform our family into a blessed family
Thank you my Lord
In Jesus Name, Amen.
May God bless you all
