I just read an article on the internet and in that article the author wrote that the number of divorce is substantially increasing throughout the years. He also said that if it keeps in this rhythm, probably marriages won’t last more than five years.
It makes me wonder: what is really happening? As we have previously post in this blog, the devil suggest situations that we can choose or not to do.
He may send on our way a flirting person in order to make us fall into temptation, but it’s really up to each one of us if we want to follow the road of destruction in order to have some hours of deceiving pleasure or if we want to do the right choice and send the flirting person away from our lives.
Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.
We all are going to be tempted, but as we can see, there will be always a way to escape. What makes a marriage to last is to safeguard it. If we do not safeguard our relationship with our spouses, it will shipwreck sooner or later.
We may ask: How to keep the flames of love in our marriage still burning? Marriage and love is a very delicate plant that needs constant care. If we neglect the proper care it will die.
As I wrote about closing the doorways; in our relationship with our spouse we also have to close the doorways that may contribute to marriage problems.
These are some of the common mistakes a person may do, and consequently end up destroying a marriage:
Loving more your kids:
Kids are a blessing that our Lord gave to us, but never love more or give more attention to them than to your spouse.
Friends:
Choose the right person to be your friend. If this friend of yours are constantly between you and your spouse, and if you prefer your friends than your husband/wife; it’s time to open the eyes and see that this friendship is destroying your life! We shall love the presence of our spouses and we have to rejoice in spend time with them. A true friend does what is good for his friends and never led them to destruction.
Internet:
Internet is a wonderful tool in hand. But unfortunately many families are being destroyed because of its misuse. If there is something on the internet that is putting your marriage at risk, you shall stop it immediately. Remember: safeguard your marriage.
Flirtation:
The only person we can flirt with is our spouses! If you allow yourself being flirting by other person you will be playing with fire and nevertheless you will hurt yourself and your family.
TV:
Watching TV is something very nice, but we have to choose what kind of TV program is health for our family. These days I saw in the television a famous series about wives that while their husbands are working the wives are flirting and cheating around. That is really a decadency. And the media claims that this should be the women of the future! Free to do everything. If you spend your time watching this kind of program you will see that very soon you will find yourself in a trap.
Lack of communication:
I can’t understand why some couples don’t talk with each other! Couples should participate on each other lives. Get interested with the job and other things that your spouse likes. If he/she likes computer, than talk about computer; if he/she likes fashion, than talk about fashion. Talk with each other, ask things to each other. Do not limit your conversation only about your kids. As I have said, participate on each other lives.
Seek God. If you are living in the edge of a divorce or up to comity adultery, God can give you a happy life. He is eager to stand His hands and to rescue from your problems.
Mark 10:27 But Jesus looked at them and said, "With men it is impossible, but not with God; for with God all things are possible."
I hope it will be a blessing for you, a relative or friend of yours.
God bless
